I think everyone who is no longer with the other parent of a child wants to be secure and altruistic and focus on the child, but sometimes that seems impossible.  One woman has written a letter that represents our best self and reading it reminds us that we can have lofty goals.  Read the letter here: http://www.huffingtonpost.com/carlie-maree/a-letter-to-my-husbands-new-girlfriend_b_10057726.html?utm_hp_ref=divorce&ir=Divorce